The Wisdomous - Asking for help - Writing daily - Imperfections.
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Hey friends,
I have something to ask you. Can you please forward this edition to a friend?
You see, that was easy. It hasn't always been like that for me, and I am still learning how to ask for help. This is a skill that I am learning now.
I have always struggled to ask for help. Here are a few reasons behind my inability to ask for aid :
I don't want to burden someone else.
If I can do it by myself, why ask?
We all have our worries; I should add mine to theirs.
I am smart, and I can definitely find a way on my own.
Life is unfair; deal with it, Ivan.
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In hindsight, most of those are rooted in my bloated ego, lack of social skills, and introverted nature.
As I am learning to be vulnerable, I have realised that I am not an island, and I have to let people in and ask for help when necessary. Asking for help is a skill that I can learn. Humans are prone to help when asked.
I have to learn it ask properly, drop my pride, be vulnerable, ignore those false beliefs, trust other people's kindness and continue to be generous, too; after all, the hand that gives gets twice as much.
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Your kind hearts mainly influenced this reflection as I was amazed by your spirit of giving after loads you bought me coffee. All I had to do was to be vulnerable enough to make the ask. Thank you.
Nuggets.
As night turns to day, the light of positivity will ignite a fresh chance to make the world you live in a better place for one & all.
Your growth scares people who don't want change.
You will not see the sky if you have covered the glass with blue paint.
You are not your wounds, You are not your scars.
Wrote.
Are you decluttering people in your life? : No point hanging out with people who don’t make you feel good — not unless you like being down.
Read.
Time isn't money: Time is the only truly scarce resource we possess. We should spend it with a level of care befitting its nature. by Boz.
How to surf a “Do Nothing” Day: I recently talked with a friend who was going through a low period of feeling like doing nothing, and I remembered this article from No sidebar.
It’s your life. It’s your work. : A job is something you do for money. Your life’s work is done for a bigger purpose, to fulfil a calling or a dream. And when you manage to find that work—that’s when it starts feeling like play
Tips.
I had to rewrite this section after a chat with a friend. If I were to share one important tip today, I'd urge you to start writing every day in public.
There are many benefits to it, but here is a list of a few.
Writing daily.
It helps in sharpening your skills as a writer.
It helps in expanding your mind.
It influences you to read and learn more.
It helps in articulating your thoughts, aka "Thinking on paper."
It helps you in building a body of work for reference.
Writing in public.
It helps in exploring your vulnerable side.
It helps in fighting that "writer's block".
It introduces you to like-minded people.
It gets you out of your carapace and perfectionist nature.
It helps with accountability - The public has to be served.
PS: This doesn't apply to writing only. I am slightly biased; writing is my medium. Whatever your art is, do it daily and be vulnerable to share with the public.
In retrospect, doing it led me to you. I am grateful.
Fun.
Music
Work hard by Frankie Paul
Standing in the headlights by Eric Strickland and the B
Mine by Alex Isley ft Jack Dine
Movie
The Mitchells vs the Machines(Netflix): I enjoyed this one. The visuals are amazing. We all know families like them.
Monster (Netflix): I shed tears watching this one. It's raw and thoughtful.
Video
Whilst J Cole is making headlines as he is in my home country, here is a video he recently released explaining how he got the "intervention" from friends and became serious about putting in the work.
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